fix: Use Rc for lifecycle management

[yydcnjjw]

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[ealmloff]

This fixes #4512. The implementation of Clone and Drop for LifeCycle in use_drop were poorly behaved such that lifecycle is not equal to lifecycle.clone(). We used to return a cloned version of the value and keep the original version to drop later. That changed in #4381 to return the original version of the value passed into use_hook and store a cloned version. Changing to Rc fixes the behavior so we don't rely on which value is stored and which one is returned

[ealmloff]

Thanks! I added some tests so we can avoid regressions here in the future